I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you surely don't deserve me at my best.
— Marilyn Monroe
If anyone is to be found spontaneously breaking into song and dance, it is Vanessa. She can get caught up in the excitement of the moment, and want everyone else to feel that way, too. No one else is as generous with their time and energy as she is when it comes to encouraging others, and she does it with such irresistible style.
We Are All of Us Stars...
Born an entertainer, she loves the spotlight, but all the world's a stage. She loves acting, even putting on a show for her friends too, chatting with a unique and earthy wit, soaking up attention, and making every outing feel a bit like a party. Utterly social, she enjoys the simplest things, and there's no greater joy for her than just having fun with a good group of friends.
It's not just talk either – she has a strong aesthetic sense. From grooming and outfits to a well-appointed home, she has an eye for fashion. Knowing what's attractive the moment they see it, she isn't afraid to change her surroundings to reflect her personal style. She is naturally curious, exploring new designs and styles with ease.
Though it may not always seem like it, she knows that it's not all about her – she is observant, and very sensitive to others' emotions. She is often the first to help someone talk out a challenging problem, happily providing emotional support and practical advice. However, if the problem is about her, she is more likely to avoid a conflict altogether than to address it head-on. She usually loves a little drama and passion, but not so much when they are the focus of the criticisms it can bring....And We Deserve to Twinkle
The biggest challenge she faces is that she is often so focused on immediate pleasures that she neglects the duties and responsibilities that make those luxuries possible. Complex analysis, repetitive tasks, and matching statistics to real consequences are not easy activities for her. She'd rather rely on luck or opportunity, or simply ask for help from her extensive circle of friends. It is important for her to challenge herself to keep track of long-term things like her retirement plans or sugar intake – there won't always be someone else around who can help to keep an eye on these things.
She recognizes value and quality, which on its own is a fine trait. In combination with her tendency to be a poor planner though, this can cause her to live beyond her means, and credit cards are especially dangerous. More focused on leaping at opportunities than in planning out long-term goals, she may find that her inattentiveness has made some activities unaffordable.
There's nothing that makes her feel quite as unhappy as realizing that she is boxed in by circumstance, unable to join her friends.
She is welcome wherever there's a need for laughter, playfulness, and a volunteer to try something new and fun – and there's no greater joy for her than to bring everyone else along for the ride. She can chat for hours, sometimes about anything but the topic she meant to talk about, and share her loved ones' emotions through good times and bad. If she can just remember to keep her ducks in a row, she'll always be ready to dive into all the new and exciting things the world has to offer, friends in tow.
Her Strengths•Bold – She isn't known for holding back. Wanting to experience everything there is to experience, she doesn't mind stepping out of her comfort zone when no one else is willing.
•Original – Traditions and expectations are secondary to her, if a consideration at all. She loves to experiment with new styles, and constantly find new ways to stick out in the crowd.
•Aesthetics and Showmanship – Not stopping at mere outfits, she injets artistic creativity into her words and actions, too. Every day is a performance, and she loves to put on a show.
•Practical – To her, the world is meant to be felt and experienced. Truth is stranger than fiction, and she prefer to see and do than to wax philosophical about "what-ifs."
•Observant – With all this focus on the here and now, on doing and acting, it makes sense that she is a natural when it comes to noticing real, tangible things and changes.
•Excellent People Skills – More so than things though, she loves to pay attention to people. She is talkative, witty, and almost never runs out of things to discuss. For her, happiness and satisfaction stem from the time she spends with the people she enjoys being with.
Her Weaknesses•Sensitive – She is strongly emotional, and very vulnerable to criticism – she can feel like she's been backed into a corner, sometimes reacting badly. This is probably her greatest weakness, because it makes it so hard to address any of her other weaknesses brought to light.
•Conflict-Averse – She sometimes ignores and avoids conflict entirely. She tends to say and do what's needed to get out of such situations, then move on to something more fun.
•Easily Bored – Without constant excitement, she finds ways to create it herself. Risky behavior, self-indulgence, and the pleasures of the moment over long-term plans are all things she gets into a little too often.
•Poor Long-Term Planners – In fact, she rarely makes detailed plans for the future. To her, things come as they come, and she rarely bothers with taking the time to lay out steps and consequences, with the belief that they could change at any moment – even with things that can be planned.
•Unfocused – Anything that requires long-term dedication and focus is a particular challenge for her. In academics, subjects that are dense and unchanging like Classic Literature are much more difficult than subjects more dynamic and relatable like psychology. The trick for her is to find day-to-day joy in broader goals, and to tough it out with those tedious things that must be done.
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